⇒ For those of you that follow me on || Intsagram|| you will know that I love to write long captions. I often write whole little stories. I decided to start a hashtag, I choose a picture every week and write my musings about it here. I will post on Instagram with the hashtag #talesofmymotherhood.
|| Time ||
Time, waits for no one.
We all know this. We all have exactly the same 24 hours a day as everyone else. Yet, I stand by and feel as though I am sinking beneath the tides of the reality that is my life. I watch others, mainly women on Instagram who seem to have it all figured out. Women who run a home, work out side of the home, run a blog, look sleek and stylish AND are super Mama’s to boot. I sit and watch their lives unfold on my screen and wonder how. Now this is not a post talking about the perils of social media and how you only get to see selected snapshots of these people’s lives, OK well it is, but not in the way that you think. It all comes down to time.
These women such as Emma over at Brummy Mummy of 2 and Clemmie who has four daughters, is a part time midwife, published author AND blogs over at Gas and Air as well as Gemma who is the creator of Somewhere after the rainbow and Jess who I love reading at Only girl in the house.
* Click their names for their Instagram profiles and the blog names to go to their blogs.
They have their shit together and here I am barely able to even get all the plates up into the air that I want to be spinning, let alone actually get them spinning successfully like these ladies. I kept questioning how do they do it? I kept wondering what was so different between them and me. Then it hit me, nothing. Like I said we all have exactly the same amount of time, but it is how we use that time that dictates what we get done in the day. I was listening to one of the Purposeful Home Podcasts and they were talking about the illusion of creating more time.
They spoke about how people will complain that they don’t have enough to do something, but what that usually means is they are not committed enough or are not prepared to give up time wasting activities in order to create more time. I often find myself saying I don’t have enough time to, get dressed in the morning, to eat a proper breakfast, to sit and write consistently but I have the exact same amount of time as these other women, who I look up to and they manage to make their time work for them.
I decided it was time to take action. I got the boys up and dressed for school, then when they left I focused on getting all the things done I don’t normally have time for. I cleansed and washed my face, brushed my teeth
I normally do this just before running out of the house to collect Zachary in the afternoon, I got dressed, made a yummy breakfast for Ezra and myself and sat down ready to get to work, writing. Now don’t get me wrong it didn’t all go as planned it never does when you have a baby ,Ezra got cranky and he refused to nap, but eventually I asked for help. I asked his Dad to watch him a while whist I continued writing, this is something I very rarely do, but as he wasn’t studying at the time I felt it was OK. Also a little Daddy and Ezra time is never a bad thing.
The biggest thing here was I creating time to write. This is what I need and intend to do from now on. Look at the time I have and see how I can create the time I need to be able to experience the things that I really want to be doing. If I want to make something of this blog and really be able to engage with people, then I need to be present and the only way I can do this is by creating time for me to write. I understand that some days will not go as planned and it isn’t always going to be easy to dedicate the time needed to the different areas of my life, but I feel like having my eyes open to where I am procrastinating and taking time away from the things that allow me to feel genuine happiness, is going to only have a positive impact.
So yes, all those wonderful ladies that I mentioned, I am aware that we only see small snippets of their lives. However, I am realising sometimes we don’t see all the hard work that goes into getting them to the places they are. We don’t see the time spent planning and writing blog posts, creating hashtags, editing images and videos, changing themes and layouts. We don’t get to see the nitty gritty so to speak, but it is all there and they all have to do it, using the same 24 hours we all have.
♥ I hope you enjoyed this post. Let me know what things you wish you had time for and how you could possibly find that time? Also let me know who you admire on Instagram or in the blogging world and why.
Much love and many thanks